[VL] improve Sort Merge Join on Velox backend

[zhouyuan]

Description

By default gluten with Velox backend will use Shuffled Hash Join to get better performance. Sort Merge Join is still useful in some cases 1) very big table on build side 2) bucket scan 3) inner join with redundant keys
the plan is to

• Adding support for SMJ join types other than inner and left join, and join with conditions
• improve the performance of SMJ/Sort

thanks,
-yuan

[FelixYBW]

should we remove the prefer_hashjoin or create some more rules using RAS?